How do you say "I love you" that special valentine? You want to let her know how special she is and how much she means to you. You really want her to understand how special you feel she is and how much she has changed your life. You know love words won’t suffice, but you still want to express through short love poems or other forms of romantic messages just how much she means to you.

The vehicle of communication is not that important. What IS important is your intent, your sincerity and your level of connection with her. In the end, it doesn’t really matter how you communicate to her as long as your intent is right. You could take her to the most expensive dinner, write her the best love poem in the world, get her jewelry and have it all mean absolutely nothing to her.

And you can also do hardly anything for her, maybe write just a few love words, and yet have it mean everything to her. It’s NOT the method you use, but the intent. And your intent means nothing unless you know what is important to your wife or partner. It’s never about what you think she would like, but what SHE actually would like. Some women want service. Some women want gifts. Some women want praise. Some women just want to know that you have things handled. Some women just want you to communicate better. There are things that your partner wants that mean more to her than anything else you could do. PAY ATTENTION to those things first. Don’t worry about anything else.

If you know what’s important to her, then you can write a powerful short love poem for Valentine’s Day and have it mean a lot for her. But that also means you might have to take care of things outside of Valentine’s Day for the rest of the year. You can’t mess up in other areas of your life, write a love poem and expect it all to be better. If you’ve made a mistake, you have to correct the mistake in the realm in which it was made. If you got into credit card debt, the way to fix it is to get out of credit card debt, not writing a poem about how sorry you are.

So pay attention to what your wife really wants. Then do that for her. Only after you’ve done that and she’s feeling great about everything else in her life should you attempt to write a short love poem. And when you do, you better make sure it comes from your heart. You better be writing about what means something to her.

Phrases like "I would die for you and cross the ocean for you" means nothing compared to words like "I know I don’t always listen and love you like you want, but I’m getting better every day and my intent is to love you like you want." And the only thing that will make it really good is if your actions line up with your words. Words can never serve as a savior from your actions. Love words will only serve as a compliment to your actions and the example of your daily life.

If your actions and your intent are lined up with loving and your appreciating your partner, and SHE truly feels that way, then it won’t matter what you write in a love poem, you’ll always get it right. If your actions are not lined up, it doesn’t matter what you write, you’ll always get it wrong.

So to make your partner feel special on Valentine’s Day, be the living example she wants and love her like she wants on a consistent basis. Then write her a short love poem that is in line with your actions. Your actions will show your wife that you love her above all else that you can do. The short love poems are only the cherry on top.