To make it more direct, I am afraid of women. I am so afraid that when I’m in clubs, I tend to befriend a bottle of beer rather than meeting new friends of prospective girls. I’m not into opening up since I thought I have a weight issue and my face has been hit by meteorites of acne. The truth is none of these two are my real problems. I am afraid of women and their rejection. However, that was 5 minutes ago.

The solution came from the least way I could ever think of. A friend of mine who goes by the name of Racquel asked me something about messaging a girl and adding her on Facebook. It was her story at first but I think carrying my issue for 22 years of my existence on Earth gave me the drive to share my stupidity on approaching or attracting women.

I told Racquel that I’m gravely affected of my attitude towards the opposite sex. This stems out from one issue. I don’t mean any disrespect. Gays always look at me. Girls seldom take a peek of my face.

Three weeks ago, I met with my fraternity brothers and I opened up my issue to them. They told me to mimic a good masculine guy that would change others perception of me instantly. I immediately thought of the guy who works in a welding Jamaica team. Every body language, every posture, every facial expression, I copied. It was working. But the point still remains, that guy from a welding supply company is not me. Sure, he looks masculine since he is a steel metal supplier carrying tons of metal abrasives and welded chain links but that is just not me. So, I gave it up.

Racquel and I work in the same company. We’re in the same team and a messaging client or application is available for us for instant messaging through intranet. I told her my issue. I admitted for the first time that I am afraid of women and the rejection after saying hi to them.

Then, she told me the weirdest words I have ever heard which supposed to boost up my confidence. She told me that a reserved, simple, and humble guy is sexy. I was like, "Well, that has been me for the past 22 years but nobody found me sexy." She told me she is coming from the perspective of a natural woman. And she is, I have to say. She is always bubbly and although the weather or any type of condition hits her, she still manages to put a smile on everyone’s face.

She expounded for a little bit. She said a real woman needs a guy who is reserved yet sensible. I objected by saying it’s boring. She gave me a friendly "no stupid!"

Everything boils down to how we carry conversations and how we present ourselves. No pretentious characters, no trying-hard personality, no imitation of someone you are not. Out of the conversation I had with Racquel, there is another thing I realized. Celebrate who you are. It is only when you are happy and contented being yourself that others will be happy and contented with you in the end.