Do you wish you and your partner had a spicier sex life? The only solution to truly turn up the heat in your relationship is if both you and your partner work together towards a more active, fulfilling sex life. Here are the steps every couple should take to have a more intense sexual relationship.

1. Realize you need spice.

Everyone would love to think that their relationship doesn’t need any extra help, but only couples who actively seek out sexual health will see an improvement in their sex life. Change is necessary in any relationship, so be sure to always mix up your sex life. You’ve heard the old saying that variety is the spice of life, so feel free to change up the ol’ routine. For example, do you typically only have sex at night, or in the same position? Switch up – have sex at different times throughout the day. There’s tons of books out there on different sexual positions, so spend a few dollars on what could leave you amazingly satisfied!

2. Adult toys are for you.

Think you don’t need adult toys? Think again. Ever since the famous television show Sex and The City made the Jack Rabbit Vibrator popular, more and more couples are turning to sex toys to spice up their relationship. Give that special lady in your life a vibrator! Not only will she love using it, but it’ll make her crave the real thing even more. Don’t be afraid to experiment with sex toys. Most companies even ship them in a plain brown box, so only you will have a clue on what’s inside that box!

3. Indulge in your fantasies.

Your fantasies don’t have to stay in your imagination; you and your partner can role-play with erotic costumes and exotic lingerie. Be sure that your partner is comfortable with your role-playing, as both you and your partner need to be comfortable with your sexual decisions before any progress can be made to spice up your sex life. You may also want to try fake, comfortable handcuffs for an added thrill.

4. Guidance is a good thing.

What typically happens when you don’t ask for directions? You get lost! The same goes for you and your partner’s sex life. You both may not want to watch raunchy porn, but there are many sophisticated and tasteful adult dvds and books that can help you turn up the passion in your life. Check online for great values or look for books at your local bookstore.