What are some of the problems that are often observed amongst first-time mothers?

First-time mums often think they are going into labour when they start having regular contractions every five minutes or so. Although this is one of the signs, it does not mean that you are going to deliver immediately.

Anxious first-time parents sometimes end up rushing to hospital thinking that the baby is going to come out, and end up returning home after assessment by the doctor and it is established that they are not yet in labour.

What is the most important thing for a woman to do when she goes into labour?

The best approach is to relax and let nature take its course. The more relaxed you are, the more you will be in control of your body. If a woman is tensed up, labour may be prolonged as it will take longer for the cervix to dilate fully for the baby's head to come through.

How can you help a woman in labour relax?

One way is for the doctor or nurses to give the mother information, bit by bit, while she is in labour, to keep her informed of the progress of labour. It also helps not to focus on the pain. Read a book, listen to music or just walk around to take your mind off it.

What is the average length of labour?

About six to eight hours. It is good to remember that pregnancy is not an illness. Even when you are in labour, you are not sick. Labour pains are a natural part of childbirth.

After giving birth, what are some of the common problems that mothers face - apart from the sleepless nights?

Breastfeeding is a major problem for many first-time mums. Some need help in getting their babies to latch on. Others have no idea how much milk they should feed the baby or how to burp the baby after each feed.

New mothers also have to learn how to bathe the baby, change diapers and clean the baby's umbilical cord properly.

Some say that a mother should not bathe during her confinement because cold water is bad for her health. Is this true?

No, in fact a mother should take regular baths because more than ever, she needs to pay attention to her personal hygiene. A newborn has low immunity and is thus susceptible to infections. A mother - in fact anyone who looks after the baby - must always wash his/her hands with soap and water before and after attending to the baby.

When can a couple start having sex following the birth of their baby?

It is up to the couple. But make sure that all the episiotomy incisions and lacerations are well healed or it could be painful for the woman. Episiotomy is a procedure where the skin between the vagina and the anus is cut to enlarge the vaginal opening so that a baby can be delivered more easily.

What are the signs of post-natal depression?

If a new mum finds herself feeling edgy for no particular reason and unhappy with just about everything, there may be some reason for concern. For new mothers, especially, support from the husband, family and in-laws is very important. At our hospital, we have Clinical Pastoral Carers who visit patients and see how they are doing. Sometimes all they need is a listening ear.

Last words of wisdom for first-time mums

Prepare well, eat well and keep yourself in optimal health. Sounds very simple but may be easier said than done.